HighPer Space: Midway Check in

Are you craving CHANGE and not sure what’s needed. We’ve created HighPer Space to offer a space for you to skyrocket out of your blockages and live your best YES life.

Are you craving CHANGE and not sure what’s needed. We’ve created HighPer Space to offer a space for you to skyrocket out of your blockages and live your best YES life.

We’re half way through our current HighPer Space group, and the group’s growth at this point is measurable, life changing, and tangible.  

When the 6 group members started the workshop series, they were asked to write down a goal for their time HighPer Space and describe what wasn’t working well for them. What was the CHANGE they wanted to see? Did they even know what it was?

Each person wrote a purpose statement that became a goal. Over the course of only 4 sessions, every group member is now able to put into words what sabotages them from achieving that goal. In the beginning, the sabotaging piece was subjective to each of them, and through HighPer Space coaching, homework, reading, and group collaboration, they now see the hidden sabotage “lie” objectively. They are moving towards the change they felt they needed with purpose.

As a result, each person has tested their “lie” and can now see it was a mere thought from their past that doesn’t exist in the present. They’ve embraced the practice of vulnerability (acting when you aren’t certain of the outcome) in different exercises in front of each other, given kind feedback, and practiced being uncomfortable with the new skill of straight speak.

They’ve shared many emotions together and have an unwavering commitment to stay the course. They came in as an individual contributor looking to grow for themselves, and what has seamlessly bloomed is the strength of TEAMWORK.

HighPer Space Weeks 4 & 5 are diving into positive psychology and self-regulation of their strengths!

Ready to live your authentic yes? We’re launching our next HighPer Space at our introductory rate one last time! Learn more today. Space is limited to 6 people.

Wishing you your YES,

B


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February Focus: Master of All Strengths

Live Your Yes  February Focus Strenghts

We focused our efforts this month to expand your positivity perspective on yourself, others, and your environment.  To embrace the discovery of this journey, it will require an open mind, a growth mindset, use of words understood by everyone, and a passion to try something new.  

Every day this month, we will be highlighting one STRENGTH on Instagram. Join the conversation over there, and read on to learn why Live Your Yes strongly believes in leveraging STRENGTHS to live our strongest YES life.

We believe words like ‘failures’, ‘weaknesses’, or ‘right versus wrong’ leave the receiver feeling a bit doubtful and unworthy. Most adult brains stop maturing at the social or self-authoring stage; this is good to know because the above words become part of the identity of the receiver when heard frequently. The mind doesn’t understand ‘failure’ as objective; it sees it as subjective. Therefore, the receiver believes they are weak, or worse, that they ARE a failure. We believe, and see in clients we’ve coached, that this leads one to feeling shame, and numbing is the behavior that arises.

After researching and using the numerous tools in the marketplace to aid individuals to better understand themselves, we aligned our practice with the VIA Institute of Character.  Dr. Martin E.P. Seligman, Dr. Christopher Peterson, and 55 noted scholars & positive youth development practitioners, embarked on the most comprehensive and robust effort ever to understand what’s best about  human beings and how we build full and flourishing lives for ourselves and others. As a result of their global research over a 3 year period, they released their free character strength assessment. Fast forward to today and over 5 million people from every country in the world have taken a VIA Survey which is currently translated into 37 languages, and there are over 300 scientific publications relating to the survey in professional journals.

The Character Strengths are*:

  • Wellsprings of the good life- a life well lived.

  • Psychological ingredients that define the great virtues (wisdom, justice, temperance, transcendance, courage, humanity)

  • Capacities for thinking, feeling, and behaving

  • Positive traits that are core to our being/identity and our doing/behavior

  • Basic building blocks of a flourishing life: character strengths are the pathways to well-being, described as PERMA - Positive emotions, Engagement, Positive Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishments

  • A common language as a group that describe what is best in human beings.

*Cited from Seligman, Peterson, Park, 2002

We now live our lives and teach our clients to incorporate the Character Strengths into theirs. We invite you to take the VIA Character Strength assessment, too.

Awareness of your strengths is the first step to Living Your Yes. Noticing when they are overused, underused, and in which situations different strengths arise is critical to living your best lift. We hope you enjoy this journey of exploration and are here to guide and support you as you move forward.


Wishing you your YES,

B


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Company Coaching: 6 key things to consider when hiring a company coach

Hiring a company coach is extremely beneficial when developing yourself and team.  It seems like everyone is some type of coach nowadays and it can be overwhelming to find a great one.

To help you out, we’ve compiled 6 key things to help you prepare for interviewing and hiring a company coach for your business:

Live Your Yes  6 tips for hiring a corporate coach
  1. What is possible

  2. Trust

  3. Alignment with corporate mission & values

  4. Personal Development Process

  5. Beyond the session

  6. Time

 

ONE: What is possible

When preparing for your meeting with a coach, be sure to spend time thinking about the possibilities you want for yourself or team. Most often, clients are clear on what they don’t like or isn’t working for them, but don’t forget what you WANT. Envision your future; what will your life look like after you’ve worked with your coach? What do you want to achieve? This will give you clarity on the gap between current reality and the possibilities moving forward.

TWO: Trust

Trust your gut instinct upon meeting a potential coach. This is an act of vulnerability and will be key in getting the most out of your coaching relationship. Does the coach’s language resonate with you?  Do you feel like they “get you” and exude a natural empathy? Our instincts are the best indicators, so pay attention.

THREE: Mission & Values

A good coach will know your mission & values and come prepared with questions inspired by them. On the flip side, be prepared to ask questions to the coach to see if their actions & coaching process align with your mission & values.  Also- does the coach have a mission & personal values? This is often overlooked, and important.

FOUR: Coaching Process

Make sure the coach you hire has a proven process. You want to hire someone who stands behind what they deliver. A process is measurable in delivering results aligned to bigger goals for the person or team. Learn the style of the coach as well. Each coach has a unique style of working with a person or team, so ask for a few examples. Also, does the coach have life experience (wisdom), blended in with coaching classes? Do they have specific training in their process they deliver or did they create it based on experience?


FIVE: Beyond the session

Creating good boundaries & expectations with the coach in the beginning creates a positive experience for everyone. Does the coach offer support in between sessions? Do they communicate and offer exercises to the person or team they are coaching in between sessions? Bottom line; get clear.


SIX: Time

How long does your coaching process take to see results? This is an honest question and can be hard to answer! It always depends on the by-in from the person or team being coached. We like to say “you have to do the work to see results”. Our advice is have an honest conversation with yourself or team before hiring a coach. On a scale of 1-10, how committed are you to do the work? If you’re not a resounding YES, then it can take longer to see results when working with a coach. What you put into the relationship is what you get out of the relationship.

Want to learn more? We would love to discuss our process and how we can serve you and your team through our corporate coaching program.

 

Self Care in the New Year

What a perfect way to kick off the New Year with a vision for your self-care!  We often hear a blend of definitions for self-care, and we are here to add some perspective for you!

Self-care activities are those things we do to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Countless research findings demonstrate the importance of one’s ability to attend to and meet personal needs. For instance, self-care has been found to increase empathy, immunologic functioning, and has been associated with lower levels of anxiety and depression.

Live Your Yes Self Care

Self-care is sometimes mistaken for selfishness, however, according to Mills, Wand, and Fraser (2015), self-care allows people to take better care of others. These authors argue that it is a lack of self-care during times of distress that has a negative effect on one’s ability to provide care and compassion to others. Because self-care ensures that we have taken care of our needs, we operate from a state of inner balance, which renders us better equipped to meet others’ needs.

While self-care may sound simple enough, it is often difficult to execute. One of the most common reasons for people not engaging in regular self-care is that they “don’t have time”. Fortunately, there are many different self-care practices one can do, and none of them are especially time consuming or require a lot of planning. Once self-care becomes a part of everyday life, it is likely that people will become more and more protective of that time and wonder how they ever managed without it.

Doing kind and caring things for ourselves, particularly when we are struggling, can help us to cope and move through difficult emotional experiences. Self-care activities can be sensory, emotional, physical, spiritual, and social. The idea with initiating self-care and integrating it into everyday life is to find out what feels good to you—something that you genuinely enjoy doing, and that fits with your lifestyle and your values.

This exercise involves creating a self-care vision board. A vision board is a visual representation of a particular concept using images, illustrations and/or words. The aim of the exercise is to help clients increase self-care and self-compassion in a creative way.

Create Your Vision Board

LiveYourYes Vision Board

Brainstorm Activities: Come up with a list of as many potential self-care activities as possible. Be bold and creative, allowing yourself to consider new and different potential activities. Only include activities that you would genuinely enjoy doing and that fit with your lifestyle, your values, and your strengths.

Collect images for your board: Find positive images that correspond with your chosen self-care activities. Look for images that resonate with you, and inspire you. You might like to use the internet, magazines, and photographs as potential sources. Use photos of activities that you can do to take better care of yourself and your needs.

Collect Words for your board: You can decide to keep your vision board completely visual or to add words and phrases to it. The words and phrases you choose should reflect or relate to your chosen self-care activities. You might like to cut words out of magazines or print them from the internet. Choose words and fonts that resonate with you and inspire you.

Put your board together: Once you have gathered your images and inspiring phrases, get creative with your arrangement.

SHARE YOUR VISION BOARD! When you're all done shaping your 2019 vision, tag @LiveYourYes on Instagram and show us what you created.


Ready to learn more on Self Care? Head over to HighPer Space, where we talk about all kinds of self care and personal development for those ready to elevate in every area of their lives.

Thanksgiving Traditions and the Season of Gratitude

You know that feeling when something "goes your way", like discovering money in your coat pocket, or uncover a missing glove on a cold morning. The smile on your face might be quick, but what you bring to the surface is your strength of gratitude. "Thank you for being on my side today!"

Research shows that finding more opportunities to connect the things, moments, and people in your life with this grateful feeling can decrease stress, improve self-esteem, and overall make you a happier, more resilient person.

And, what's even better: you can stumble across gratitude in the ordinary things versus the grand gestures of appreciation to notice the benefits of this strength.

Today- thank your spouse or partner for folding the laundry, or give praise to your co-worker for their contribution on a team project. Think of that delicious lunch as something to be thankful for. Find gratitude in your health for simple things, like being able to run outside with your child, or having the strength to carry all of your groceries into the house in one trip. The key is to start noticing the small things, and instead of taking them for granted, giving them a moment of appreciation for making your life just a little bit sweeter.

Join our Instagram “yes for gratitude challenge” & spend one week focusing on the little gifts in your life, then watch how those little gifts multiply and grow...

LiveYourYes Gratitude Challenge

We say “yes” to Thanksgiving traditions….enjoy!

Ready for some simple moments worth celebrating? Read on for a few gratitude-worthy sentiments from the LYY Community. Inspired? Share yours in the comments, below!!

“My family likes to keep things small for Thanksgiving. There aren’t a lot of people at our dinner table, but there’s certainly plenty of food. My dad takes brussel sprouts to another level... every year, he tops them with parmesan and toasted walnuts. Yum! - Erikca

“Our Thanksgiving tradition is pretty much the same every year. Folks come to our house, and we cook up a huge meal. We go around the table and talk about “news & goods”.  One new thing that happened to us this year, one good thing that has happened to each of us this year, and one thing we are thankful for. “ -Jeff

“I love staying active as a way of practicing gratitude for my body.  I either begin the day with a yoga class at a local studio or a fun Thanksgiving run!” -Anne

“We host at my house.  It’s small but cozy, and there are typically about 16 people gathered around a makeshift large table. A small fire in the fireplace sets the cozy mood. Fam shows up about 4 for a cocktail hour. I make an assortment of craft cocktails to order and we cram ourselves into our living room to enjoy. I’ve been handed down a vintage rotisserie. It was my grandfathers. He had it in the deli/sandwich shop he owned in Laguna Beach, CA where my dad grew up. Thing works like a charm & makes this wonderful clicking sound as the bird or the roast rotates inside. My wife cooks everything else: brussel sprouts, cranberry sauce, twice baked mashed potatoes, etc. My mom brings fresh pesto- a tradition we picked up from our Italian friends in San Fran when I was kid.  Dinner is fast, but slowed by a simple question that everyone has to answer: What are you most thankful for this year. Inevitably it ends with some grateful tears, and shy smiles with kind eyes.” - Josh

“We go on a big family walk after our meal!” - Megan


I am grateful to each of you for being part of my growing path, and your continued support with Live Your Yes.  Each of you contribute a lot of heart and soul to the communities you serve, and I am appreciative of your contribution to me.  It’s always a pleasure to work alongside of you, bump into you at coffee shops, in between yoga classes, or attending a LYY event.


In Gratitude,

Brandyn