February Focus: Strengths Recap Week 1

We focused our efforts this month to positively expand your perspective on yourself, others, and your environment by focusing on The Character Strengths as outlined by the VIA Institute of Character. To learn more about the Strengths, read our introductory blog post here. We’ve even included access to take your own FREE Strengths assessment to really be able to leverage all the information we’re sharing throughout the month over on Instagram.

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STRENGTHS Recap: Week 1

Awareness of your strengths is the first step to Living Your Yes. We kicked the month off with 7 amazing strengths. Read on for a recap of each strength and some though provoking questions to help you leverage these strengths and LIVE YOUR YES!

  1. Perspective: Think about all the people close to you, now who do you turn to when you need to see your situation differently?  Most often then not, those people lead with the strength of perspective. Perspective is a strength connected to the virtue of wisdom.  When someone uses their perspective strength they give wise counsel to others. They are good at looking at a situation that make sense to oneself, and to other people.  Looking to strengthen your perspective strength? Start with answering this question: In what situations do you feel most comfortable (and least comfortable) in sharing your perspective?  

  2. Hope: Let’s be real friends- sometimes shit happens & overtime you lose your ability to see the best in the future.  You’re so stuck in your past thoughts, you now believe them. We understand, and have some cheery news for you today.  Did you know you have the strength of hope in you? It might be buried deep, but trust us; you got it. Hope aligns to the virtue of transcendence. When you express hope, you are expecting the best in the future & working to achieve it; believing that a good future is something that can be brought about.  Time to realign with your hope? Start here: Write down the old story that leaves you without hope on a piece of paper. And write the whole story; details and all. Next, circle only the facts of the story; not the interpretation of the fact. What are you left seeing? How can hope support you to move forward; visualize it & write it down.

  3. Honesty: You know those people who have such a genuineness about them?  Every time you see them they are so sincere. What you are witnessing is the strength of honesty being expressed.  Honesty is a virtue of courage & means speaking the truth but more broadly presenting oneself in a genuine way & acting in a sincere way; being without pretense, taking responsibility for one’s feelings & actions.  Curious to grow your honesty strength? Start here: In what situations do you find your need to temper your honesty or avoid the full the truth?

  4. Creativity: Know someone who is really good at generating multiple solutions to solve a problem?  They take a step back & explore the unknown to tap into something original. What you are most likely seeing is the individual’s creativity strength in expression.  Creativity is aligned with the virtue wisdom. Creativity means thinking of novel and productive ways to conceptualize & do things; includes artistic achievement but is not limited to it.  Here’s a tip to express your creativity: Ask yourself the next you’re faced with challenge to think outside of the box. Notice what stops your creativity. Continue to rumble when you are problem solving using your creative mind!

  5. Judgment: We love our friends who are so good at looking at all sides of a situation before making a decision. They aren’t easily manipulated, and are good at resisting suggestions.  These are the friends we need around when we are quick to make rash decision; right? What you see being expressed is your friend’s strength of judgment. Judgment connects to the virtue of wisdom.  Judgment peeps are good at thinking things through and examining them from all sides; not jumping to conclusions; being able to change one’s mind in light of evidence, weighing all evidence fairly. Here’s an exercise to boost your judgment strength: challenge your personal biases & opinions by seeking information that runs counter to your beliefs, attitudes, & behaviors.

  6. Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence: Have you ever stopped to observe a flower, a tree, mountain, or the ocean & felt awe struck? You saw something beyond the tangibleness, and couldn’t quite take your eyes off of it.  We like to say you’ve awakened your strength of appreciation of beauty & excellence friend. This strength means noticing & appreciating beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in various domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to science to everyday experience. We encourage you to take time each day to notice beauty in either nature, art, or in the moral goodness of others.  

  7. Kindness: A few friends come to our mind when we ponder on the kindness strength. They are the do good for other people; people.  The kindness strength means doing favors and god deeds for others; helping them; taking care of them. It’s one of the top 5 most prevalent character strengths across the globe. It’s power absorbs some of our  stress & trauma. To also point out, kindness toward oneself reaps numerous benefits including optimism, connectedness to others, and mastery of goals. Over the next week, write down when you observe another practicing kindness, and when you do as well.

Are you ready to dive into your Strengths?

Want more? We talk all about Strengths in our 1:1 coaching sessions and our group coaching platform HighPer Space. Ready to say YES to unblocking what’s holding you back and use your strengths to elevate your life? Shoot us a note. We’d love to chat.

Wishing you your YES,

B

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HighPer Space: Midway Check in

Are you craving CHANGE and not sure what’s needed. We’ve created HighPer Space to offer a space for you to skyrocket out of your blockages and live your best YES life.

Are you craving CHANGE and not sure what’s needed. We’ve created HighPer Space to offer a space for you to skyrocket out of your blockages and live your best YES life.

We’re half way through our current HighPer Space group, and the group’s growth at this point is measurable, life changing, and tangible.  

When the 6 group members started the workshop series, they were asked to write down a goal for their time HighPer Space and describe what wasn’t working well for them. What was the CHANGE they wanted to see? Did they even know what it was?

Each person wrote a purpose statement that became a goal. Over the course of only 4 sessions, every group member is now able to put into words what sabotages them from achieving that goal. In the beginning, the sabotaging piece was subjective to each of them, and through HighPer Space coaching, homework, reading, and group collaboration, they now see the hidden sabotage “lie” objectively. They are moving towards the change they felt they needed with purpose.

As a result, each person has tested their “lie” and can now see it was a mere thought from their past that doesn’t exist in the present. They’ve embraced the practice of vulnerability (acting when you aren’t certain of the outcome) in different exercises in front of each other, given kind feedback, and practiced being uncomfortable with the new skill of straight speak.

They’ve shared many emotions together and have an unwavering commitment to stay the course. They came in as an individual contributor looking to grow for themselves, and what has seamlessly bloomed is the strength of TEAMWORK.

HighPer Space Weeks 4 & 5 are diving into positive psychology and self-regulation of their strengths!

Ready to live your authentic yes? We’re launching our next HighPer Space at our introductory rate one last time! Learn more today. Space is limited to 6 people.

Wishing you your YES,

B


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February Focus: Master of All Strengths

Live Your Yes  February Focus Strenghts

We focused our efforts this month to expand your positivity perspective on yourself, others, and your environment.  To embrace the discovery of this journey, it will require an open mind, a growth mindset, use of words understood by everyone, and a passion to try something new.  

Every day this month, we will be highlighting one STRENGTH on Instagram. Join the conversation over there, and read on to learn why Live Your Yes strongly believes in leveraging STRENGTHS to live our strongest YES life.

We believe words like ‘failures’, ‘weaknesses’, or ‘right versus wrong’ leave the receiver feeling a bit doubtful and unworthy. Most adult brains stop maturing at the social or self-authoring stage; this is good to know because the above words become part of the identity of the receiver when heard frequently. The mind doesn’t understand ‘failure’ as objective; it sees it as subjective. Therefore, the receiver believes they are weak, or worse, that they ARE a failure. We believe, and see in clients we’ve coached, that this leads one to feeling shame, and numbing is the behavior that arises.

After researching and using the numerous tools in the marketplace to aid individuals to better understand themselves, we aligned our practice with the VIA Institute of Character.  Dr. Martin E.P. Seligman, Dr. Christopher Peterson, and 55 noted scholars & positive youth development practitioners, embarked on the most comprehensive and robust effort ever to understand what’s best about  human beings and how we build full and flourishing lives for ourselves and others. As a result of their global research over a 3 year period, they released their free character strength assessment. Fast forward to today and over 5 million people from every country in the world have taken a VIA Survey which is currently translated into 37 languages, and there are over 300 scientific publications relating to the survey in professional journals.

The Character Strengths are*:

  • Wellsprings of the good life- a life well lived.

  • Psychological ingredients that define the great virtues (wisdom, justice, temperance, transcendance, courage, humanity)

  • Capacities for thinking, feeling, and behaving

  • Positive traits that are core to our being/identity and our doing/behavior

  • Basic building blocks of a flourishing life: character strengths are the pathways to well-being, described as PERMA - Positive emotions, Engagement, Positive Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishments

  • A common language as a group that describe what is best in human beings.

*Cited from Seligman, Peterson, Park, 2002

We now live our lives and teach our clients to incorporate the Character Strengths into theirs. We invite you to take the VIA Character Strength assessment, too.

Awareness of your strengths is the first step to Living Your Yes. Noticing when they are overused, underused, and in which situations different strengths arise is critical to living your best lift. We hope you enjoy this journey of exploration and are here to guide and support you as you move forward.


Wishing you your YES,

B


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Company Coaching: 6 key things to consider when hiring a company coach

Hiring a company coach is extremely beneficial when developing yourself and team.  It seems like everyone is some type of coach nowadays and it can be overwhelming to find a great one.

To help you out, we’ve compiled 6 key things to help you prepare for interviewing and hiring a company coach for your business:

Live Your Yes  6 tips for hiring a corporate coach
  1. What is possible

  2. Trust

  3. Alignment with corporate mission & values

  4. Personal Development Process

  5. Beyond the session

  6. Time

 

ONE: What is possible

When preparing for your meeting with a coach, be sure to spend time thinking about the possibilities you want for yourself or team. Most often, clients are clear on what they don’t like or isn’t working for them, but don’t forget what you WANT. Envision your future; what will your life look like after you’ve worked with your coach? What do you want to achieve? This will give you clarity on the gap between current reality and the possibilities moving forward.

TWO: Trust

Trust your gut instinct upon meeting a potential coach. This is an act of vulnerability and will be key in getting the most out of your coaching relationship. Does the coach’s language resonate with you?  Do you feel like they “get you” and exude a natural empathy? Our instincts are the best indicators, so pay attention.

THREE: Mission & Values

A good coach will know your mission & values and come prepared with questions inspired by them. On the flip side, be prepared to ask questions to the coach to see if their actions & coaching process align with your mission & values.  Also- does the coach have a mission & personal values? This is often overlooked, and important.

FOUR: Coaching Process

Make sure the coach you hire has a proven process. You want to hire someone who stands behind what they deliver. A process is measurable in delivering results aligned to bigger goals for the person or team. Learn the style of the coach as well. Each coach has a unique style of working with a person or team, so ask for a few examples. Also, does the coach have life experience (wisdom), blended in with coaching classes? Do they have specific training in their process they deliver or did they create it based on experience?


FIVE: Beyond the session

Creating good boundaries & expectations with the coach in the beginning creates a positive experience for everyone. Does the coach offer support in between sessions? Do they communicate and offer exercises to the person or team they are coaching in between sessions? Bottom line; get clear.


SIX: Time

How long does your coaching process take to see results? This is an honest question and can be hard to answer! It always depends on the by-in from the person or team being coached. We like to say “you have to do the work to see results”. Our advice is have an honest conversation with yourself or team before hiring a coach. On a scale of 1-10, how committed are you to do the work? If you’re not a resounding YES, then it can take longer to see results when working with a coach. What you put into the relationship is what you get out of the relationship.

Want to learn more? We would love to discuss our process and how we can serve you and your team through our corporate coaching program.

 

Self Care in the New Year

What a perfect way to kick off the New Year with a vision for your self-care!  We often hear a blend of definitions for self-care, and we are here to add some perspective for you!

Self-care activities are those things we do to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Countless research findings demonstrate the importance of one’s ability to attend to and meet personal needs. For instance, self-care has been found to increase empathy, immunologic functioning, and has been associated with lower levels of anxiety and depression.

Live Your Yes Self Care

Self-care is sometimes mistaken for selfishness, however, according to Mills, Wand, and Fraser (2015), self-care allows people to take better care of others. These authors argue that it is a lack of self-care during times of distress that has a negative effect on one’s ability to provide care and compassion to others. Because self-care ensures that we have taken care of our needs, we operate from a state of inner balance, which renders us better equipped to meet others’ needs.

While self-care may sound simple enough, it is often difficult to execute. One of the most common reasons for people not engaging in regular self-care is that they “don’t have time”. Fortunately, there are many different self-care practices one can do, and none of them are especially time consuming or require a lot of planning. Once self-care becomes a part of everyday life, it is likely that people will become more and more protective of that time and wonder how they ever managed without it.

Doing kind and caring things for ourselves, particularly when we are struggling, can help us to cope and move through difficult emotional experiences. Self-care activities can be sensory, emotional, physical, spiritual, and social. The idea with initiating self-care and integrating it into everyday life is to find out what feels good to you—something that you genuinely enjoy doing, and that fits with your lifestyle and your values.

This exercise involves creating a self-care vision board. A vision board is a visual representation of a particular concept using images, illustrations and/or words. The aim of the exercise is to help clients increase self-care and self-compassion in a creative way.

Create Your Vision Board

LiveYourYes Vision Board

Brainstorm Activities: Come up with a list of as many potential self-care activities as possible. Be bold and creative, allowing yourself to consider new and different potential activities. Only include activities that you would genuinely enjoy doing and that fit with your lifestyle, your values, and your strengths.

Collect images for your board: Find positive images that correspond with your chosen self-care activities. Look for images that resonate with you, and inspire you. You might like to use the internet, magazines, and photographs as potential sources. Use photos of activities that you can do to take better care of yourself and your needs.

Collect Words for your board: You can decide to keep your vision board completely visual or to add words and phrases to it. The words and phrases you choose should reflect or relate to your chosen self-care activities. You might like to cut words out of magazines or print them from the internet. Choose words and fonts that resonate with you and inspire you.

Put your board together: Once you have gathered your images and inspiring phrases, get creative with your arrangement.

SHARE YOUR VISION BOARD! When you're all done shaping your 2019 vision, tag @LiveYourYes on Instagram and show us what you created.


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